Allow God to fix you...not your spouse. I've never seen a perfect marriage yet. In fact, no marriage is perfect. One thing that can diminish the marriage is when we point out our spouses negatives rather than focusing on their positives.
Everyone needs help from time to time. Getting help or advice from a seasoned couple or a professional isn't anything to be ashamed of. You are not the first married couple that has ever struggled, you won't be the last. Who cares what others people say or think...get the help you need before you implode.
Love your spouse like Jesus does. When you see your spouse like Jesus does it will change your perspective on the person God gave you. Seeing your spouse as a child of God first will help you treat them better. Ask yourself, "How would God want me to treat His child?"
Assume the best...not the worst. There is such a thing as "assumicide!" Assumicide is believing the worst about someone without giving them the benefit of the doubt...and that kills. However, LOVE always assumes the best about a person. At least that's what Apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 13. If we are always assuming the worst about the person we're married to then we are placing the relationship in a "no-win" situation.
