Sunday, July 21, 2019

Don't Ever Speak To My Child Like That!

1. A child who can't be told "no" or be corrected...is a child that will grow up with an entitlement spirit.
2. Parents, don't always rush to your child's defense when they tell you they didn't like the way they were spoken to or corrected.
3. First of all, common courtesy & respect teaches us that when we're being admonished or corrected, we look people in the eye. We do not look away because we don't like what we're being told. This is learned behavior that carries the connotation of "I am not listening & I do not receive the correction."
4. Imagine being on the job & your boss is speaking with you, but you won't look them in the eye while they're speaking. Not only is it disrespectful, it stems from a root of rebellion within.
5. The same could be said about a student at school who while the Principal is speaking with them won't look him/her in the eye while they're speaking. Not only is it disrespectful, it stems from a root of rebellion within.
6. Imagine being in a youth group at church & your Pastor, Pastor's Wife, Youth Pastor, an Elder or Deacon is speaking with you about something that is basic or even an area of concern & you won't look them in the eye while they're speaking. Not only is it disrespectful, it stems from a root of rebellion within.
7. I remember growing up in church that when the leadership gathered the young people together to address us students about our behavior, the way we represent the church, our families, etc., while away at youth camp, or just reminders, etc....sometimes they were extremely FIRM and some might even say they were too firm....but it TAUGHT US to HONOR & RESPECT those in authority; not undermine them & try to gain an audience with other disgruntled people who didn't like receiving correction either.
8. Our children become adults. Adult have children...and the cycle continues.
9. We always told our child's teachers, pastors, leaders, etc., if our child does something that warrants correction...please do it. We love our child enough to let the village correct them...especially since they have to live in that same village.
10. When you see bullheadedness in a child...you don't have to look very far to see where they got it from.
11. Parents of all children must continue to reinforce RESPECT at all times from our children. Respect for authority. Respect for leadership. Respect for all people. Respect for themselves.
12. If a child rears up in defiance...regardless of age...don't quickly pass it off as a "stage" (of course there are some stages)...but deal with the ROOT of it & stop it in its tracks.
13. Parents who defend their children’s bad behavior with no consequence may one day have to pay a lawyer to do the same.
14. The primary job of Kingdom parents is to raise Kingdom kids in such a way that they become Kingdom adults.
15. Each and every one of us are born looking like our parents, but we die looking like our decisions.
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